Parenting isn’t easy. It is one of the toughest jobs I know. But as parents, we must always remember that we ARE the parent. Children naturally look to us to provide them with guidelines, set the rules, correct and discipline behavior, etc. Too many times in today’s society I encounter parents who are reluctant to take their role as the parent. Instead of asserting themselves in that position and telling the child what to do, I catch parents asking their child for “permission” to do something that we all know is good for them. For example, a parent brings a child to church with the intent of attending Sunday School. The parent approaches the child’s Sunday School room. The child shows disapproval and suddenly the great debate begins. The conversation goes something like this:
Parent: “Here’s your class, Johnny. Go on in.”
Child: “No! I don’t want to go!”
Parent: “Oh, what’s wrong, Johnny?”
Child: “I don’t want to go! I don’t like my class.”
Parent: “Oh, well maybe just for a little while?”
Parent: “Ok, well let’s go. I don’t want you upset. Maybe next week.”
And every week it’s the same story. The feelings of the child override what the parent knows is best for the child. As parents, it is our job to not only know what is best for the child, but to enforce our parental authority. Too many parents today are walking around doing what the child wants them to do and not what is best for the child. Instead of “Father knows best!” it is “The child knows best!” If this cycle continues as the child develops, it will manifest itself all the way through to adolescence.
What do you think? Do you agree or disagree?